Books We Read Before Getting Married

It's unbelievable how close we are to our first year as husband and wifethis month it will be 10 months since we became one flesh. 

There have been lessons aplenty and I've gotten to know myself more as I discover other facets of Carlo's personality in increasing measure. We are grateful that we're spending our first year of marriage here in our little apartment up in the mountains. We are also grateful that even prior to our wedding, we've been led to some resources that have helped shape our view of marriage, improve our communication, and assist in our adjustment. Below are five important books that we read before tying the knot.

1. Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts by Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott

Focus: seven important questions or hot topics to consider before (and even after) the wedding.

Carlo and I used the individual workbooks along with the Kindle edition and it was like getting our pre-pre-marital counseling. I think we got more out of it when we used the workbook because it made the insights more concrete and applicable to our relationship. We could always go back to the workbook to see how else we can grow.

2. The Meaning of Marriage by Timothy and Kathy Keller

Focus: Biblical view of marriage

We LOVED this one as evidenced by the numerous highlights on our Kindle copy. This book is not just for those about to get married but for anyone who wants to know God better, whether you're single or married.

3. A Celebration of Sex by Dr. Douglas Rosenau

Focus: answering questions and debunking misconceptions about sexual intimacy

Carlo and I read the newlyweds edition I think one month before our wedding. I personally liked how it was written and how it deals honestly with sex. This would go along well during pre-marital counseling.

4. This Momentary Marriage by John Piper (with a foreword by Noel Piper)

Focus: similar to The Meaning of Marriage; highlights marriage as the ultimate metaphor of Jesus' love for his church

Actually, I was the only one who read this :) Still a good read though! Much like the Kellers' book, this is an insightful and even challenging read for those who want to go deep in their relationship with Jesus. The subtitle is "A Parable of Permanence," referring to Jesus and his Church, the Bride that he redeems and sanctifies to be his own. That really sets things in perspective.

Books have been helpful for Carlo and I over the course of our relationship. Reading fosters learning and we always want to be in a position of humility and excitement to learn from each other, as much as we desire to learn about each other more.

If you're married, did you get pre-marital counseling? What are some books that you and/or your spouse read before and after getting married? I'm curious about those post-wedding reads so come at me with recommendations :)

For His Kingdom,


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